Monday, November 10, 2014

Everything happens for a reason

I used to think that maybe what I was getting out of relationships is what I deserved. I thought to myself, well it could be worse it's not like he's a drug addict and he doesn't hit me. But emotional abuse is just as bad if not worse.
The funny thing is, I didn't really understand it was verbal and emotional abuse until after the fact. You don't realize the "jokes" are really him talking down to you, or the passive aggressive behavior that you think is him being sarcastic is really his way of telling you "I can't do this anymore but I'm too much of a coward to tell you to your face".
You think he's just "being a guy" and "guys aren't emotional" or "he's just in a bad mood he doesn't mean it". But he does, and he's an asshole. And nice girls tend to make excuses for too long thinking it's normal for a man to act this way, when it makes him more childish then man.
Trust me ladies, dump him.
Don't waste your time.
He will never change.
he will never be what you need him to be for you, he will never walk by your side and comfort you. He will only make fun of you and make a joke to avoid you being upset.
Strive for the MAN that will wipe your tears and talk to ou like a human.
Strive for the MAN that will cuddle you and let you express how you feel and even if he's not sure how to react, tells you that and makes the effort to think about it and then show you or answer you. Ladies, trust me..... Not all guys are jerks. You jus need to find the right guy, and not out up with his shit.
And also know the signs of a true asshole, and Move on before he emotionally messes you up.
It took me a long time to realize these things.
But this time last year I met the most amazing guy ever, and I love him unconditionally and he loves me equally. We are not just lovers but best friends.
I'm not going to lie we don't get along 100% of the time, but we talk it out and we make it work. We don't go to bed mad at each other.
I promise there are still good guys out there.
Don't let the jerks get you down or make you feel like you don't deserve anything greater then extraordinary love. It does exist with the right person.
I am where I am today because I realized after I had been treated badly for so long what I truly deserve wasn't asking much.... I just took me too long to realize I deserved it all along and we all deserve the love honor and respect of a partner. 

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